Lesson 31 of Recovery Nation had some interesting questions.
A. Make a list of all identifiable stressors that have affected your emotional health over the past week. For each, document whether it is a mild, moderate, severe or extreme stressor.
1) Supporting my wife in dealing with the trauma and grief I caused as well as with other “normal, routine” stressful issues: severe; 2) preparing for forced retirement, relocation, and job hunting: severe; 3) adjusting to fluid travel schedules and other responsibilities at work and as a parent-volunteer leader: moderate; 4) dealing with parents, dog, traffic, co-workers, and other people and events in general: mild
B. Return to your values list created earlier in the workshop. In a healthy life, the majority of energy being drained (e.g. stress) should be related to the pursuit of your highest prioritized values (top fifteen or so). Do you see this pattern in your life? If not, what do you think this means in terms of the way that you are expending your energy?
Here, again, are my top fifteen values
1. Counting my blessings
4. Being a good husband
5. Being a good father
6. Wanting the best for my family
7. Protecting my family
8. Meaningful relationships with my wife and kids
9. Being active
10. Being useful
11. Lifelong learning
12. Creating new ideas throughout life
13. Improving the community or world
14. Living with integrity
15. Living with compassion
Yes, in my view, it does appear that the stressors I listed above are basically related to the several top values that relate to family and earning a living.
C. Likewise, in a healthy life, the majority of meaning and stimulation that you gain should also be related to your highest values. Do you see this pattern in your life? If not, what do you think this means in terms of the quality of life you are living?
Yes, it does seem to match. Five years ago I don’t believe it did match.