Recovering from addiction, or addicted to recovery?

Here’s an interesting passage from Recovery Nation:

Unfortunately, the inevitable result of such negative motivations for recovery (e.g. ending the addiction to avoid negative consequences) is that the addictive behaviors often do change (at least temporarily). But because the core of the person has not been altered; because their basic life management skills remain immature, they are still left with the only known outlet to emotional management: addiction. Except now, new behaviors must be introduced to fill the void of the existing patterns that are being changed. So, instead of being addicted to pornography, you may now find yourself addicted to online chatting. Or instead of affairs, you may now find yourself relying on masturbation for comfort. Or food. Or alcohol. Or religion. Or recovery.

This touches on one of the positive things Recovery Nation offers, in my view:  the idea that stopping the inappropriate behavior and inappropriate thinking can be accomplished without continuing to follow some therapy program or group for the rest of your life.  This passage suggests that it is possible, and that the key is having the right motivation.

Again, however, this portion of Recovery Nation still strikes me as not relevant to my own goals.  I’m not working on addiction.  I’m working on moral and emotional development.  And, I’m not seeking recovery from some mental ailment.  I  seek recovery of the loving relationship with my wife that I destroyed.

I continue working with Recovery Nation, for now.  But, I’d prefer to find some non-theological reading or activities aimed at developing empathy, gratitude, integrity, and morality.


One thought on “Recovering from addiction, or addicted to recovery?

  1. If the ultimate goal is to fundamentally change the core values and decision making processes, then it seems RN at least offers the opportunity to head in a healthier direction. It seems to fit with the idea of more lasting fundamental internal changes, as opposed to simply promoting the need for continuous external influences (even if healthier ones) to avoid negative consequences.

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